I don´t know who this young woman/man is who answered there in Yahoo. But I want to say him/her, that i am very thankful to read his/her lines! My full respect for this young man/woman to oper her/his heart & let us know so many facts we never know: Annamaria
A prisoned childhood, how do you become a functional adult?
Because I’m the oldest in my teenage years I jumped several times to the opportinuty of an early arranged marriage because it seemed to be the only way out of this “prison” of a life, but I always broke it off later (even disappointing families and such) because I realized it wasn’t “right” and could possibly lead to another prison situation.
Fast forward today, I changed my life by forcing myself to leap on an opportunity and leave to another country at 19, it was impuslive and a very bad and dangerous idea but when I was suffering from PTSD and left my family shortly after, my father (who kept in contact from afar) was angry and cut me out (which is fine)
This is not about me btw, just some backround, the thing is that my sisters stayed and grew up at home with my mother, who at some point got married and left them in their home to their own devices, my father ended up making a lot of money and they started spending a lot of money on games and gaming consoles, whatever they wanted but they had the same prisoned life.
Today they are 23, 21 and 19 and they pretty much still have the same life but some have reverted into a strict routine and refuse to leave, wanting to stay by my mothers side (kind of like an abusee refusing to leave an abusive situations) and others want to leave and break away the way I did.
The problem is that they all lack social skills, have lost out on schooling, and have a difficult time intergrating at this age into society, which makes them feel more alienated and broken.
I’m heartbroken, I worked in the last 6 yeas to fix up my life and through my example I believe there is hope for them but they were a lot younger when taken out of school (I finished grade 8 in a classroom) and these girls hardly were schooled their entire lives and only knew this “prison” lifestyle.
How can I help them, I want them to come and live with me, I have a safe and healthy environment for them to live with me and gain their personal freedom slowly.
I tried with one sister to take steps to slowly improve but after taking one pretty big step she is breaking down, I think she had higher expectations but I believe she still feels “broken” inside, how do I help her?
1 month ago
1 month ago